1. Welcome Them With Aroha – But Set Boundaries

A warm welcome matters. It shows your loved one they still belong. But healthy boundaries are just as important — for you and them.

Talk openly about expectations. What are you comfortable with? What do you need? Boundaries aren’t rejection — they’re a way of protecting relationships.

2. Understand the Pressure They’re Under

Life after prison can feel confusing. Many people come home to new technology, unfamiliar routines, or a lack of structure. They might feel lost, ashamed, or defensive.

“Sometimes they’ll say they’re fine when they’re not. Just being patient and checking in helps.”

Don’t expect instant change. Reintegration takes time, consistency, and compassion.

3. Celebrate Small Wins

Progress might look like attending an appointment, applying for work, or staying calm under pressure. Acknowledge those wins — they build confidence and hope.

4. Take Care of Yourself Too

Whānau often carry heavy emotions — anger, guilt, or exhaustion. It’s okay to seek your own support.
We offer whānau guidance and can connect you to counselling or peer groups.

“You can’t pour from an empty cup. Looking after yourself helps everyone.”

5. Stay Connected With Support

You don’t have to do this alone. Reach out to PARS Taranaki — we’re here to help families navigate the ups and downs together.